How to Not Exist a Dick

The Beloved, Happiness & Success Podcast with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Music Credits: Wimps, "Luggage"

Finding Mutual Understanding

Let'southward face up it: we all take moments. But the question of how we handle these moments when we feel (justifiably!) angry or frustrated with other people is critical, equally well as asking what we practise with the moments when we lose our cool. While everyone is in agreement that in that location is a fourth dimension and place for healthy anger, sometimes the lines can get blurred around whether you're setting advisable limits…or whether you lot're just existence unnecessarily aggressive nigh making your feelings known. In life coaching and therapy sessions (and especially couples counseling sessions), the topic often comes up of how to grow in emotional intelligence to be able to communicate well, even when you're upset.

How practice nosotros notice that residue? This perfect balance betwixt non being a pushover and having a right to your feelings, must be weighed out with having compassion for other people. This gets particularly difficult when you're dealing with other people who may not exist behaving well themselves. It's challenging for all of us. (#lifegoals!)

The easy (but less mature) affair to practice in the confront of conflict is to lash out in anger, push people away, or freeze people out. It'southward much harder to stay in the ring and find a path of mutual agreement and repair.

Emotional Intelligence Skills

At Growing Self we talk a lot about emotional intelligence, and how vital it is to having not simply great relationships, only career success too. Nosotros recollect of "emotional intelligence" as existence the ability to sympathize other people and communicate finer, but one of the crucial cadre skills of emotional intelligence is really self-regulation. Self-regulation can exist defined as the ability to manage big feelings appropriately, and in such a way equally to non damage important relationships. Choosing kindness, processing anger, decompressing later stress, and finding ways to overcome obstacles are all signs of skilful self-regulation.

Easier. Said. Than. Washed…. particularly when y'all're feeling attacked or disrespected. Just when you learn how to regulate yourself and handle tough interpersonal situations well, YOU take the opportunity to find solutions, build bridges and strengthen connections.

How To Not Exist A Dick

On the latest episode of the Beloved, Happiness and Success Podcast, I had the cracking pleasure of speaking with NYC-based psychoanalyst, Dr. Mark Borg, nigh this subject, and his insights into how to lead a more empathetic life. Dr. Borg is the author of the book, "Don't Be a Dick: Change Yourself, Change Your Earth" and he shared thoughtful strategies for how to:

  • Gain the accurate self-awareness necessary to catch yourself when y'all're slipping into unnecessary "dickishness"
  • Handle challenging interpersonal situations with grace and tact
  • Cultivate the mindset that will assist yous stay compassionate with people who are not behaving well
  • Develope strategies to handle extremely triggering situations with your family around the holidays (without getting sucked into conflict)
  • Use the power of empathy for yourself, and others, in order to brand the world a ameliorate identify

All that, and more, on this episode of the podcast. (Both the video and sound versions are included below!)

I hope this perspective and advice helps you and the people y'all love.

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

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How to Not Be a Dick

The Love, Happiness & Success Podcast with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Music Credits: Wimps, "Baggage"

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